Written By: Rebecca Kangwa, LMHC

Many couples have a lot of love for each other but still have hard times. Maybe you and your partner fight a lot, feel disconnected, or feel resentment building. Couples therapy can help!

Although individual therapy is becoming normalized, a lot of people still feel shy, embarrassed, or scared about starting couples therapy. Let’s talk about why that may be and why couples therapy is truly nothing to fear. 

Why Are People Scared of Couples Therapy?

Some people think going to therapy means their relationship is “bad” or “broken.” That’s not true. Couples therapy isn’t just for people who want to break up. It’s for anyone who wants to:

• Talk with a mediator
  
• Feel closer to their partner
  
• Understand each other better
  
• Work through specific problems together
  

Couples therapy is like learning a new skill. Just like you’d take a class to learn how to paint or play piano. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Different Kinds of Couples Therapy

There are many methods to working with couples. Here are some very popular modalities of couples therapy:

Gottman Method Couples Therapy
This theory helps couples talk calmly and kindly, even when upset. It teaches how to fix fights, show love, and build trust.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
This theory helps couples understand each other’s feelings and develop safety with one another. It helps people who feel alone or scared in their relationship.

Imago Therapy
This therapy helps partners understand how childhood affects how they act in love. It helps people talk and listen without blaming each other.

Every couple is different. A good couples therapist will help you find the right kind of therapy for you and your partner.

Should We Try Couples Therapy?

If you and your partner:

• Fight a lot
  
• Feel far apart or lonely
  
• Have trouble talking without getting upset
  
• Feel stuck in the same problems
  

…then couples therapy could help! You don’t have to wait until things feel “really bad.” Many couples go to therapy just to make a good relationship even stronger.

At The Gold Mind, we help couples in NYC learn how to talk, listen, and love each other better.
Want to know more about couples therapy?

Contact The Gold Mind today. We’re here to help you and your partner feel happier and more connected.